Who holds the hand of a black man if not himself?

May 2021 is mental health awareness month. As a writer, mental health consumer, and mental health advocate, I need to speak up to inspire someone to make a positive change in their life.

While the black community is vast and nuances of our life experiences cannot be fully captured or qualified, millions of Black men’s mental health in America, as a social group, have suffered throughout the years in total silence, with racism and social injustice being the culprit.

I am not someone who labels every injustice as anti-blackness…

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“Dad would have disowned you,” my older brother told me as I explained to him how I experienced my bisexuality and my first same-sex experiences.

“If he weren’t on his death bed, he would have disowned you — you know dad wasn’t about any of that.”

Something about my brother’s words was simultaneously traumatic and affirming and worth pointing out as we rapidly approach Father’s Day in Pride Month.

When my brother said these words, “Dad would have disowned you,” I didn’t know whether to celebrate because someone else could see what I saw or panic because my dad was…

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“We should always pray for help, but we should always listen for inspiration and impression to proceed in ways different from those we may have thought of.” — John H. Groberg

Life can be challenging — I mean, we’ve learned that the past 13 months in COVID-19! Grace is in order for most of us!

Sometimes hardships can leave us feeling lost and alone. It can feel like God has forgotten about us, because no-one can truly understand our unique plight in the world.

And an even more dangerous feeling is sometimes it feels like we are being targeted, often…


Imagine this — you match Tinder profiles with an independent man who drives a car worth fifty thousand dollars (or more). He’s smart, funny, well-traveled, he’s not an asymmetric model, but you can tell he works out by how his chest and biceps poke through his clothes, which excites you. He’s your type AND someone your friends would gush over.

He posts photos of his family and pets on his social media. He’s respectful and seems to be everything women are complaining about not finding in Youtube videos, leaving you a bit confused because, technically, he doesn’t exist.

And he…

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Defining Religion & Spirituality

Since you clicked this article, there is a chance you may have had to deal with religious fanaticism in your family. Or, maybe you are coping with a mental health issue that has challenged your faith, or perhaps you are curious about the overlap of religion and mental health.

As someone who was raised as a non-denominational Christian and who is a non-religious, spiritual person, I have asked myself how do I maintain faith and hope in the future without subscribing to world views, beliefs, and practices that I personally disagree with?

My relationship with God…

When we hear about the black experience, we think about the times of slavery and the oppression that our forefathers faced. From an early age, we learned about African-American history through the struggles of our grandparents or parents or direct life experiences through a Eurocentric perspective in the educational curriculum. In 2021, I have often thought of the black experience as one depicted as oppressive. I often ask myself if I feel oppressed or if I’m being told I’m oppressed. Because of this I become hypervigilant and analytical of everyone and everything around me.

I am not saying that we…


When people think of elder abuse, they commonly think of grandma being bullied in care homes. And while that is true, elder abuse can also be from friends or family or anyone who regularly contacts older adults.

The National Council on Aging (NCOA) estimates that 60% of elder abuse and neglect incidents occur from a first-degree family member. Two-thirds of perpetrators are adult children or spouses. If the elder depends on their abuser for aspects of their care (or their full care), the relationship can turn manipulative and controlling fast.


Bisexual-identified people continue to be at extremely high risk for suicide and self-harm.

In 2019, The Australian Journal of General Practice conducted a “Who Am I” study interviewing 2,651 men and women with bisexual attraction, identity, or experience.

The study found a high level of internalized biphobia and induced lack of self-acceptance due to invisibility, erasure, and biphobia.

· 58% reported either high or very high levels of psychological distress

· 67% reported they had been diagnosed with mental illness

· 28% had attempted suicide, 78% had thought about it

· 50% reported self-harm

The Mastery of Self, by Four Agreements author Don Miguel Ruiz, looks at humanity through the Toltec tradition lens, which originated in 10th-12th century Mexico.

Mr. Ruiz frames the notions of society and self through two key ideas:

(1) The Dream of the planet, which is society/collective thought

(2) Personal Dream, which is a personal perspective of the experiencer

The Dream of the planet and the Personal Dream coexist in a state of constant friction. Mr. …

Earlier this week, I came across a YouTuber’s video entitled, “A Christian’s response to Disney debuting first bi-sexual lead character,” which led me down a YouTube rabbit hole of watching and listening to opinions about the bi-sexual collective that does not yet exist in primetime, but surely exists in the corners of social media (if you are bi, heed my warning and do not go down this YouTube rabbit hole).

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I did not know what to expect when I clicked the YouTuber’s video, which had nearly 10,000 views and a 50/50 split of likes to dislikes. I figured I would…


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